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Dr DeMartini

• Balance in a Post Bin Laden America

  Just because Osama bin Laden is dead does not mean the 'threat' is over. He may have been the figurehead for Americans who perceive him wishing to do them harm but he certainly was not the only one. What some of the people from within the United States are going through at this moment might be called the slow come-down following the celebratory euphoria at the killing of Osama bin Laden. It might make sense that some would feel a sense of relief, even jubilation, at the news that the man who haunted the shadows of America's national consciousness for ten years is no longer a threat. Some people wanted to see so-called justice done, and many perceive that it was. But that elation could not have lasted. It is wise that such extreme feelings do not last. Obviously, just because Osama bin Laden is dead does not mean the 'threat' is over. Bin Laden may have been the figurehead for Americans who perceive him wishing to do them harm but he certainly was not the only one wishing to do so. It is still wise to be vigilant, and it is this very vigilance that will create an atmosphere, not of dread, but of strength and endurance. The understanding that there are others out there with alternative and even violently opposing values and intentions, and the understanding that these viewpoints create equilibrium with our own is what helps us to evolve. The U.S. may have killed bin Laden but once you destroy the target that you know, it is wise to realize that you also increase the odds of generating targets that you don't know. As long as those differing cultural viewpoints exist, new oppositions are inevitable. Attempting to avoid what is essentially unavoidable is the essence of human suffering, but likewise is the desire to obtain that which is unobtainable. Once again, wisdom embraces the two sides of this struggle at once: the supportive and challenging, the positive and negative, like the two sides of a magnet. One-sided magnets are unattainable; 'national magnetism,' likewise, demands the whole. To some extent, America has been defined by enemies. Enemies play a vital role in making a country more powerful. If a sports team plays an opponent that is not challenging enough, it does not see the optimal growth of its skills and abilities. If a nation is not opposed by another nation or a common enemy, it can become complacent and stagnant; it requires a challenging opponent to keep it moving forward. History has shown a constant push-and-pull between supporters and challengers, allies and enemies, cooperation and competition in all areas of life and throughout time. These make up the true balance of nature. As with predator and prey in ecology, so, too, the same in sociology. So, no, we cannot expect that because Osama bin Laden is gone, there will be complete security. The reality is that there will always be insecurity in all our lives and if it isn't something that can be personified by an enemy like bin Laden, our psyches will shift it to some other form; it will manifest itself as financial insecurity, social insecurity, relationship or spiritual insecurity. And again, that insecurity is essential to us because it helps us continue to refine our actions so that we can be better prepared to tackle whatever new challenges life sends our way. Personally, I have learned to embrace the two complementary sides of the coin rather than futilely believing that I can somehow rid myself of insecurity; it can no more be done away with completely than the feeling of comfort and security that balances it out. Sure, we strive for the illusion of constant safety, but even if that feeling were possible, would it really be wise for us in the long run? Remember that the predator is always waiting for the prey that has become full from its own meal and is now slow and vulnerable. It is wise to keep our eyes open for the next predator -- whatever form that predator may take -- and in this we can grow stronger. Maybe it's wisest to think of it in terms of police work: as the criminal strikes, the police are forced to try to out-think and stay a step ahead, which makes the criminal get smarter to stay a step ahead of them, and that forces the police to then adapt and evolve and so on. Both grow in tandem. The same holds true for peace and war and for all other forms of complementary polarities that make up our human existence.

• What's Going On Inside the Bully?

  Labeling young people bullies may just be a sign that we have not mastered the art of communicating with them in a way that they feel heard, appreciated, empowered and loved. Have you ever felt so challenged by someone that you reached your limit and became so resentful, vindictive or aggressive that you imagined yourself almost doing the unthinkable? Have you ever had so much internal turmoil or conflict over family issues or previous violence, traumas or injuries that you didn't know how to contain your internal pressure? Have you ever been so free and unconstrained without boundaries that you let yourself go beyond the normal limits, got out of control and gotten yourself into deep trouble with your family, friends or even the law? Or, have you ever envied someone that you thought had an easier, simpler or better life than you and felt jealous or envious and then vindictive and wanted to bring or cut them down to their place -- like a tall poppy -- so you could feel superior? Well some young people have certainly felt this way at times, and without guidance and direction on how to handle these internal conflicts and socially initiated feelings, they can end up doing the unthinkable and letting out their frustration and aggression onto more vulnerable others. Have you ever felt like you could never win an argument and just for once wanted to be right and feel empowered against those with rigid and righteous opinions? Have you ever felt that you were being controlled and overpowered and wanted to retaliate and control someone more meager to feel strong? Have you ever just felt extremely frustrated, stuck and angered because your dreams, goals or intentions seemed so far out of reach and unobtainable that your jaw and head hurt? Have you ever felt that no matter what you tried to communicate to others nobody seemed to listen, care or understand? Or have you ever desired to be the center of attention and wanted to be "numero uno" and yet you seemed to fall short of the center of focus, no matter what? Well some young people are experiencing these feelings daily and are screaming loudly within and reaching out for solutions to their emotional and often paradoxical dilemmas. They just want to make a difference in the world and don't know exactly how they can without losing their present identity. They desire to empower themselves but cannot seem to excel in areas that others respect and are appreciative of. So they end up finding others that are also less empowered and attempt to bring them down to experience a brief fix of dopamine so they can feel less pain and internal conflict inside themselves. Just maybe we all have the potential to become some form of bully at frustrating or challenging times -- either in our family, at work, or towards salespeople, our children or anyone we feel might be an outlet for our frustrations. Some young people are not feeling appreciated and loved for who they truly are inside and are crying out for attention and acknowledgment. Others are not clear on what they would love to focus their constructive attention upon. And still others are feeling like they have been treated unfairly and have not been able to discover the hidden blessings. Giving these young people too much or too little freedom may not be the form of love they seek and want. A balance of freedom and constraint is in order. It would be helpful to take the time to discover what their true higher values or priorities are and assist them in fulfilling what is truly most important in their lives. This could work wonders on transforming their attitudes and actions from ones of bullying to ones of fulfilling. Labeling young people bullies may just be a sign that we have not mastered the art of communicating with them in a way that they feel heard, appreciated, empowered and loved. Inside every young person is a desire to do something extraordinary and amazing with their lives. Assisting them in the fulfillment of this inner dream could transform the apparent bully into a young person living fully. Learn more at www.drdemartini.com.

• Oh My God: Divinity (God)

  False divinity is believed in, hoped for and submitted to and is generally orchestrated by organized religious institutions that perpetuate the mystical, magical and mysterious myths.For the past few weeks, HuffPost has hosted an array of respondents -- including spiritual leaders, world leaders, personalities and celebrities -- who are asked to fill in the blank to the statement: God is... The series has led up to and accompanies the November 13 opening of the upcoming documentary Oh My God? **** True Divinity represents the impersonalized Grand Organized Design of the universe -- the intelligently governed, general universal order, hidden from the awareness of most people's ordinary sensory experiences. True Divinity is cosmologically omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent and forsakes no one or no thing, no where, at no time. True Divinity is expressed through the dynamic equilibrium of complementary opposites and is only humanly "empyreanced" through the synthesis and synchronicity of complementary opposite emotions or in moments of True Divine Gratitude and Love. True Divinity transforms through apparent, yet simultaneously entangled, constructions and destructions or beautiful remodeling of the universal design all according to naturally conserving universal laws. True Divinity provokes awe and further holy curiosity in those who have awakened to this magnificent universal design. True Divinity ever evolves human consciousness to a subtle state of radiance and grace. True Divinity, when known, evokes inspiration, and the feelings of gratitude and love in the heart and certainty and presence in the mind. True Divinity is wisely understood through the heart and mind of the masters. True Divinity is ever present before, during and after mortal, physical expression. True divinity is inwardly known by those who have probed the cosmological mysteries and come to understand the implicate order, elegance and beauty inherent throughout nature. False divinity represents the personalized, anthropomorphically projected image or icon of an idolized god that supports, protects and saves ignorant people from that which oppresses them or challenges their highest personal values. False divinity "juvenilizes" people by keeping them addicted to delusions of peace without war, support without challenge, kind without cruel, happy without sad, ease without disease. False divinity is sought and sensed by the masses in moments of perceived torture, turmoil and trauma or in moments of perceived anxiety, oppression or constraint. False divinity revolves human consciousness in cycles of illusion and delusion until individually or collectively people awaken to the presence of True Divinity. False divinity is believed in, hoped for and submitted to and is generally orchestrated by organized religious institutions that perpetuate the mystical, magical and mysterious myths. The more fantasias that are incorporated into the institution governing false divinity the more they spread like wildfire to the many and the more they invoke identified pride and humility. False divinity, when addicted to, evokes redundant elations and depressions, fears and guilt and perceptions of gains and losses. False divinity is foolishly misunderstood through the emotionalizing senses of the masses. False divinity is worshipped and rampant among those fundamentalists who see only one side of life's balanced two-sided coin. Read the previous responses, from the film's director Peter Rodger, and from Dr. Lawrence Blair. Dr. John Demartini is the Founder and CEO of the Demartini Institute. He is currently featured in the documentary OH MY GOD?